Ukrainian mayor lights our path to a powerful purpose

Absorbing hourly reports of Ukrainian genocide is driving worldwide anger and compassion.

What else can we do to stop brutal murders like that of Mayor Olha Sukhenko?

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Ukrainian mayor Olha Sukhenko with son and husband/Facebook

Neighbors found her body, hands tied, with her husband and son buried in a mass grave.

The war appears to be hopeless.

Where is God in all of this?

Where is sanity, beauty and goodness?

It’s in the power of purpose which is found in three noble ideals.

Noble Ideal #1: Protect your village

Mayor Sukhenko, 50, led her village of 1,000 with nobility and intent.

She renovated the kindergarten, cultural center and made other improvements to Motyzhyn.

Fellow mayor Tetiana Semenova, described Olha as a . . .

. . . psycologist, priest and police, and many more things besides. Every year she put on a concert to celebrate the oldest and the youngest in the village, to thank military veterans, and to hand out awards for the best-looking street and building.” WSJ, 04/06/2022

On top of this, she led the resistance by supplying the Ukrainian military with Russian troop positions.

Russian soldiers murdered Olha and her family.

She died protecting her village.

Noble Ideal #2: Never settle for less

Less than what? The best.

The best is not your best interest. It’s everyone else’s.

How many mayors have you ever heard of sponsoring concerts to lift the spirits of the oldest and youngest alike?

Olha was happiest meeting the needs of everyone she loved and protected.

All the way to the point of dying for them.

“She was the best person until her last minute.” WSJ, 04/06/2022

Noble Ideal #3: Commit early

You don’t have to wait for a crisis to lead a life of purpose.

Why not do it right now with this simple exercise?

“If you could throw a log on a fire each time your life really made a difference, whether a small act of courage or kindness, or a work of art, would you have a bonfire or a flicker?”  Richard Leider

Imagine it’s your 80th birthday.  Write a statement about how your life made a difference:  “My 80th birthday—‘Here is a person who . . .'”

This exercise will clarify a purposeful life like Olha, even if you make it past 50.

What guides your purpose?

Ukrainian mayor lights our path to a powerful purpose

Like Tom Brady, Answer 7 Questions Before You Die

Tom Brady just answered seven questions anyone should before they die.

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Tom Brady Super Bowl LV/Mike Ehrman/Getty Images

In a Wall Street Journal Magazine interview (9/29/2021), Tom Brady mused over life’s biggest questions.

Here’s my take next to his condensed answers.

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Like Tom Brady, Answer 7 Questions Before You Die

Reinvent You for a Brighter Future in 4 Steps

Businesses and charities are desperate to reinvent themselves.

But, dogs are happy no matter what.

If you’re not a dog and need to uncover a bright new direction.

Check out these four steps.

Step #1:  Move from “closed” to “open”

Frustrated by closed doors? They’re actually clues for a new direction.

In his great work, Masks of Love and Life, Hanns Sachs includes a chapter called “Locked in a Room with Open Doors.”

He talks about two brothers.

One of them could never tolerate an open door.

He’d jump up and shut anything standing open.

The other brother was annoyed by this and told him, “one of these days I’m going to lock you in a room with open doors.”

Why did he say this?

Because his brother could only see closed doors.

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Choose the open door/Federico Diliberto

Restaurants, for example, that only see traditional dine-in may not survive.

But, Panera Bread is looking another direction.

Instead of choking on traditional dining-room traffic, the CEO, Niren Chaudhary, is searching for open doors.

He recently shared how his executive team noticed the struggle of people getting basic groceries at the store.  So, they started selling groceries.

“We had the infrastructure, the e-commerce plumbing, the operating system.  In 48 hours, the team said, ‘Yes we are going to do it.’”  Niren Chaudhary, WSJ, 4/24/20

Never stop imagining a new application for yourself, your family or your business.

Step #2:  Move from “material” to “people”

I believe a brighter future begins with a desire to make a difference in the world.

Most folks I know have a desire to not just occupy space, consume goods or make and spend money.  They don’t want to merely occupy space, but as the philosopher said, “we want to plant a tree under which we may never sit.”

William Manchester, in his book about Winston Churchill, said that Churchill delighted in having guests for dinner both at noon and at evening.  He liked to host people who were doing something with their lives.

There’s a tendency to sit back after you’ve made a certain amount of money, raised a family, paid off a house or sold a business and say “that’s it!”

But, it’s not it.  Money doesn’t mark the end of work.  Property doesn’t either.  People mark the measure of our contribution.  What makes a difference in life is you and other people.

Step #3:  Move from “dead-end” to “u-turn”

How did people like Winston Churchill or the Apostle Paul become so productive?

They were sensitive and open to change.

When doors closed they u-turned.

Maybe God wants to move you in a new direction.

  • Talk to people you’ve never talked to before
  • Open up to new information never considered

There’s a fear of information, as if information is going to corrupt us.

Socrates said his mission with the young men of Athens was to lead them from unconscious ignorance to conscious ignorance.

In other words, realize that we don’t know all there is to know.

So, keep an open mind and open spirit.

 Step 4:  Move from “hurter” to “healer”

We’re not here to inflict wounds.  We’re here to wash wounds.

Everyone has the gift of healing.

  • Heal a relationship by forgiving
  • Heal a relationship by accepting forgiveness
  • Heal discouragement with affirmation

Every one of us can heal people with a word or a look.

Charlene Hunter Gault was one of two black students attending the University of Georgia during the worst clashes of the civil rights movement in the sixties.

She was at a sit-in at a lunch counter in Atlanta.

People were saying horrible things and the tendency was to say horrible things back.

Charlene recalled later, as a T.V. journalist, that the leader of the sit-in was a woman named Ruby Smith.

As Charlene recounted the story, she said, “Ruby would keep walking beside us and behind us during those terribly tense moments and she’d whisper these words, ‘Don’t forget why you’re here.’”

Not to fight, but to love and forgive.

We’re here to . . .

  • be open
  • love people
  • embrace change
  • heal and not hurt

What life changes are you facing?

Reinvent You for a Brighter Future in 4 Steps